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A Secret Guide to Making your Dreams a Reality

OK…OK…I know it sounds cliché, but you really CAN make your dreams into reality!  How do I know?  Well, for one, I’ve done it myself, and secondly, I see others and close friends of mine do it all the time.  How ’bout today for instance.  Another incredible friend of mine just hit the Amazon Bestsellers list, AND she’s featured right beside the works of Richard Branson and Dale Carnegie, but get this….she’s listed before them.  Yeah, as in FIRST.  I mean c’mon!  How’s that for a dream come true? This is a real screenshot from Amazon just today:

Dare to Dream Bestseller

I not only have the honour and privilege of knowing the amazing Debbi Dachinger and count her as a dear friend, but I also have the delightful thrill of being a featured Success Story in her new release “DARE TO DREAM: This Life Counts: A Secret Guide to Making Your Dreams A Reality (Volume 1)“.  It was literally just released today amid so much hoopla that it rocketed to the top of the incredibly-hard-to-penetrate category of Self Help and Success.  Seriously….Debbi’s not only competing with the likes of Success Legends Richard Branson and Dale Carnegie (and BEATS them!), but she appears listed with Dr. Stephen Covey of “The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People”, Dr. Robert Cialdini, the foremost global expert on “Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion” and “The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom” by Don Miguel Ruiz, who happens to frequently hang out with other close friends of mine like Daniel Guiterrez and Jennifer Hough. The question is….so how did Ms. Dachinger do it?  EXACTLY by hanging out with Successful People like I just mentioned!  You see, when you surround yourself with the successful, their success rubs off on you.  You get to see how they live, how they act, how they make decisions, how they invest, and yes….how they DREAM.

I like how the late great Jim Rohn put it… “Success Leaves Clues.”  If you follow them, you can find it yourself.  Debbi’s done exactly that, and she leads you to this seemingly distant treasure by giving you the map that leads directly to it.  And yes, it’s in the form of her book.  She’s travelled the path, she’s noticed the clues, she’s followed them, and most importantly, she’s written it all down so you can do the same! This is a gal who loves to give back to the world and make a difference.  That’s why if you support her (today only so act fast…the world favours quick action…that’s a clue to Success right there….just sayin’), she’s also including over $1500 in free gifts when you send your Amazon receipt dated Nov 18, 2011 to dtd@DeborahDachinger.com.

When you get the book, you also get to read a little bit more about me (and why Debbi likes to hang out with me too :) and get access to the gifts I contributed myself to this launch.  I’m passionate about living my Life to its Fullest Potential and love helping others do the same, so when I see something like what Debbi’s created, I have to jump on board.  The question is, will you?  Will YOU Dare to Dream?  If so, tell us about it.  Would love to hear your comments.

 

Reality Check: What You REALLY Need to Know

Today is 11/11/11. Many are celebrating today because it’s a cool, palindromic number that comes once in a hundred years, and in this case, because were still at the dawn of a new millennium, some say this date comes only once in a thousand years.  Now yeah I know that symbols are very, very powerful.  And yes, 11/11/11 is a symbolically powerful number.  I don’t deny that.  It does serve to act as a good reminder that some things only come around once in our lifetime.  Hey, I got news for you: Every day comes only once, EVER….EVER! Yesterday will never happen again.  Last week will never happen again.  Last summer will never happen again.  And yes, your last birthday will never happen again.

I like to celebrate EVERY day because yeah, you guessed it, it will never happen again! That’s why I like to live my life to the fullest and help and inspire others to do the same.  That’s my mission in life.  And today, I don’t celebrate a number, I celebrate the lives of the men and women who paid the ultimate sacrifice for the bountiful good fortune we enjoy today, even in today’s economy, even as the world is still reeling from the worst economic crisis since the Great Depression, and as Europe is teetering on the brink of financial collapse.  Yes, I can honestly say I celebrate, because FREEDOM is not FREE. Today at 11 o’clock I will remember those soldiers and those who supported them, with my family.  And not only do I celebrate those fallen brave souls, their memories, and their families that remain, I celebrate what they were able to give us that we so often take for granted.  Our Freedom.  Every…single…day.  Not just one day, but every SINGLE day.  Perhaps the greatest significance of 11/11/11 is that like the date today, we are all ONE.

And on this Remembrance Day, may we all Never, Never, Never, Never Forget.

 

 

How to Feel Like a Million Bucks

Recently a good friend of my wife’s fell on hard times. Teresa had known Carol since Grade 3, and although I met Carol only once several years ago and she lived hundreds of miles away, she and Teresa always stayed in touch, as good friends do. When we heard that Carol’s marriage was failing, it didn’t really surprise us since the writing had been on the wall for years, and although it saddened us, we knew she was resilient and would bounce back. She always did from major setbacks in her life. The little “wrinkle” though was Carol’s four kids. We were especially concerned for them, who would have to witness the breakup of their mom and dad. It wasn’t pretty. For the sake of her kids and her own sanity, Carol left her husband and set up a new life in another jurisdiction. The kids were re-enrolled in other schools and this new single mom of four began the process of re-building her life in a new land. Then he pulled child payments.

Dick was a well-established, well-respected professional in his field. His family came from wealth where money was no object. When they were together, Dick and Carol lived in a stately 6000 square foot Georgian manor with all the bells and whistles. Before that they lived on a grand estate in the rolling mountains of the Adirondacks on acres of property where deer often came to visit. It seemed like the perfect lifestyle. Inside Carol’s heart though was turmoil and years of emotional and physical abuse suffered from a selfish husband who had no love for his wife and didn’t even know what grade his kids were in. It was no small decision when she decided to leave the blanket of his financial security and all it brought for her children, including the finest things and the promise of the finest schools, but at what cost? She knew that money could never buy either her or her children’s love. She had been down that road before and now Dick was doing it to his own children in whose lives, as aptly demonstrated time and again, he wanted no part.

Now struggling to live a life of love and meaning for herself and her children, Carol suddenly found herself with no job and no child support, and only $1000 to her name and five mouths to feed and shelter. In desperation, she panicked. With no other family or friends to support her, she herded her kids into a rental car and drove 3000km across the continent to the only friend she could trust…Teresa. And so our family of four instantly blossomed into a household of nine, more than double the size. We were only glad to help out, since we give away 10% of our annual income anyway to complete strangers through registered charities, so why wouldn’t we help out a close friend in need? I’d appreciate the same thing if I were in a similar situation.

We didn’t have a clue how this would affect our own family nor did we know how long it would last. I only knew that I was fortunate enough to be able to offer a hand up to a friend in dire circumstances as long as it took for Carol to get back on her feet. It’s the best thing I could’ve done. Our own kids integrated the new kids into our family seamlessly. In fact they thought it was a giant play-date that lasted for weeks instead of hours! Carol and her kids were so grateful, and the only way they could give back was to help out around the house…and help they did. I think the place was more clean and tidy with nine than it ever was with four, especially after dinner! Many hands indeed make light work. My amazing wife continued to surprise everyone with incredibly healthy meals of wonderful variety, so that I don’t think we had one repeat meal in the entire summer that Carol’s family spent with us. Which brings me to the reason why I’m writing in the first place…

You see, Carol did in fact land on her feet, she got a new job, settled in really quickly, the kids finished up their school year in another new location, and things are on the road to recovery. In a tribute to the incredible people we call friends, Kate – another single mom with three boys who is a close friend of ours – heard Carol’s horrible situation and in turn offered to host her and her kids at Kate’s place. Kate was taking her three boys camping for a few weeks and needed house and dog-sitting. Being a single mom herself, Kate could instantly relate to Carol’s plight and the perfect win-win was established: Carol could continue to re-group with her family without feeling guilty for imposing on us, Kate had a built-in house-sitter to look after her pets and plants, and it relieved us of our full house for a bit and allowed us to re-connect with our own boys. We were actually missing them in our own household since every instance of the day they were always off playing with their new-found friends!

The experience was truly an enlightening one. I think it was epitomized when Teresa and my kids had a pre-arranged softball tournament/camping weekend that we were invited to by one of my corporate clients. When we said in the household that “we” (meaning my family of four) were going camping, both my kids AND Carol’s kids thought everyone was going and they were so excited. When we explained that just the Albano family was going, my four-year old cried and Carol’s nine-year old cried because they’d be missing everyone! Further, this simple act of kindness allowed me to change lives.

I teach my kids that the most important thing in the world is to think of others first. If I really believed this and if I wanted them to really believe me, then I had to demonstrate it. Action is always more powerful than words. This was a great example of how I could show them what I mean, and it served as a good model for them to become contributing citizens to our global community. Carol and her four kids are the obvious beneficiaries, but it allowed my own kids to see how we can practice what we preach. It brought me closer to my wife too, for in supporting her through supporting Carol, she was deeply touched and I was honoured I could be there for her in that way. Kate’s life too was touched since Carol’s kids are now becoming fast friends with Kate’s, and all of them are witness to Kate’s generosity too, setting yet another example of contribution. My own life will be forever touched by what I saw happen in those kids’ lives and how our own kids will grow up with them as life-long friends. It really made me feel like a million bucks.

When I think of how many lives it actually changed directly, I count at least 14: Carol’s family of five, my family of four, Kate’s family of four, plus don’t forget ol’ Dick…while he was trying to starve out his ex in vengeance even though it would compromise the well-being of the very children he purportedly loved, Carol found a way to rise above it with dignity. I’m sure he’s second-guessing his decision now and I’m pretty sure it will come back to haunt him. I don’t wish ill upon anyone really, but karma is karma and we get what we put out. Me? I choose to put out Love. In return, I get it back in spades. Contribution in fact is one of the key areas in which I set an annual goal to fulfill. I think I’ve done ok this year ☺. I’m proud to have helped and grateful that I had the wherewithal to do so. I tell you this not to toot my own horn, but to show how you too can feel like a million bucks simply by giving back. It’s an incredibly rewarding experience.

And I think the more lives you can touch, the more meaningful it becomes. How can you contribute back to your community? Do you volunteer at the local library? Do you serve the homeless at the inner-city soup kitchen? Do you donate to the community food bank? There are so many ways you can help, but next time you do, try counting the number of lives you touch and see how you feel. If you volunteer regularly, then keep a running tally. If you don’t volunteer at all, make a commitment to start. Counting the number of lives you touch makes it tangible that you are making a difference… that you do matter. My guess is it’ll make you feel like a million bucks too. In my case, it deepened relationships. It changed the course of lives. And that’s something that no amount of money can buy.

Do YOU have a story of contribution that’s touched lives? Don’t keep it to yourself….please share it in the comments so you can inspire others to act for the betterment of all as well. And oh yeah…let us know how many lives it touched, knowing that it only takes one to make a difference. No number is too small because no life is too small…

Live Life LARGE

Dave

“Getting Rich and Living Strong”

That’s the title of the book my 6-year old son is writing…yes, he’s six. And yes, he came up with the idea of a book in the first place all by himself. He came up with the title all by himself. I was blown away! In a proud papa moment, I just had to share. I mean, that’s a title I myself would pick up in a book store. Who wouldn’t?

“So what’s it about son?” I inquire. Joshua began to read his own words from the pages he put together…” Getting Rich is good by itself, and Living Strong is good too, but Getting Rich and Living Strong is GREAT!”

“And why is getting rich and living strong great Joshua?”

“Because the most important thing in the world is helping others, and I can do that better if I have lots of money and live well.” Wow. I couldn’t agree more. And what qualifies a 6-year old to spout such words of wisdom? I mean….HE’S SIX! What does he know about getting rich or living strong?

Well, this is coming from the same kid who went straight from the tricycle to a two-wheeler, skipping training wheels altogether at the age of three. At four he was cycling beside me on my 8-10km runs, he was teaching adults how to play chess, and that’s when he climbed his first mountain (he’s climbed several since then). At five he decided to make money by having an art sale of his own drawings on a rainy day in our driveway on a dead-end street, and still made $17…then he gave a portion to charity. If you ask him what he’s going to do with the rest, he’ll tell you it’s for his University Fund for a double-major in palaeontology and zoology. He speaks Japanese and Spanish at home, and sleeps in igloos at -20°C in winter.

Springtime in the foothills of the Rockies can be pretty chilly too, and when Joshua asked to sleep under the stars by himself on our balcony at -5°C, how could I refuse such initiative? (When was the last time you slept under the stars?) At six, he won Passion Player of the Game in his first hockey tournament, he just scaled a 100 ft rock wall in the Rocky Mountains that would be difficult for most adults, and now he’s writing his first book. Oh, and as a bicycle veteran, he’s now teaching other 4-year olds how to ride without training wheels too.

This is a kid whose motto is “Why be good when you can be GREAT!” True to his word, if you ask him how he is, he’ll never say just “good.” It’s always Great or better. What’s better than Great? How ‘bout “FUNtacular”….his own word that he coined when he was just “starting out” way back at the tender age of four.
Joshua is indeed Getting Rich and Living Strong. He is already rich in life experiences and the value he brings to the world. He wears a yellow Lance Armstrong “Live Strong” bracelet as a daily reminder to do exactly that. His entrepreneurial spirit is alive and well, his attitude is incredible, and he places no-limits on his thinking. He’s confident, passionate and affectionate. We can all learn from him and he’s one of my best inspirations in remembering that we are all capable of so much more than we realize, and yes…I’m his biggest cheerleader. My favourite moments are when he comes up to me and gives me a big bear hug and says “I love you Daddy…” Proud papa indeed.

I’m sure you’ll see Getting Rich and Living Strong on the bestsellers list one day. I’ll let you know when it’s published ☺ Meanwhile, comment below on how this may have inspired you and what YOU are doing to live up to your Full Life Potential. If a 6-year old can do it, so can you…

Live Life LARGE!
Dave

3 Steps to Overcoming Adversity

Let’s face it. Life can seem pretty shitty at times. We’ve all had challenges in our lives, struggles that can seem overwhelming. I’m going through some tough times myself right now (both my sister-in-law AND mother-in-law are in town…talk about a struggle! ☺). Sometimes we’re our own worst enemy and create or attract the bad that comes our way, but sometimes, we are victims of circumstance beyond our control. The former has a cure but it’s the latter I’d like to discuss, as in the case of physical or sexual abuse for instance. Or what if we’re born into poverty? Or with a learning disability? Or caught in an accident by a hit-and-run? We don’t ask for these things yet they can define the very rest of our lives and who we become. We all have baggage. This is a heavy topic so bear with me, and if it doesn’t apply to you share this with someone to whom it does. Don’t get me wrong…I love to have fun and usually keep things light, but deep issues need to be examined, not pushed aside in the hopes they go away. That’s the mistake most people make. They ignore their issues instead of facing them. Let’s face this one together.

Take the tragic case of Officer Garrett Styles just yesterday. This Toronto-area policeman was conducting a routine traffic stop for some underage drivers, when the 15-year old at the wheel got spooked and took off, dragging the constable behind the vehicle for 300 yards. Sadly, he would not overcome his injuries, and he left behind a loving wife, a 2 year old daughter, and a 9 week old son. Officers, Firefighters, the Military….they put their lives on the line every day they go to work and yet they expect to come home every day too. They start families. They build communities. And they protect them. Officer Styles would have been 33 this Sunday. As a father myself with two young boys, I cried when I heard this tragedy. My tears will dry and I’ll forget about this news story in a few days, but the now-single mom and her two children have just had their lives torn apart. How shall they recover?

Or take the devastating fires that destroyed almost half the town of Slave Lake in Northern Alberta last month. I find it a miracle that no lives were lost. Instead, these people lost their homes, their possessions, their livelihoods, their very neighbourhoods, the trees they climbed as kids, the historic places that live now only in memory… They lost everything and they return to a town of ruin, more akin to a warzone than a sleepy country backwater. Even more shocking was the ruinous earthquake, tsunami, and aftershocks that hit Japan earlier this year and swept away not just towns, but whole lives. You can read my account of that tragedy and how I bared my soul, how it affected me here. Seriously…How can they ever recover? Could you? In fact they are rebuilding and you can too. Here’s how…

STEP1: ALLOW YOURSELF TIME TO HEAL OR FIND THE SOLUTION; If you’ve just been through a horrific experience, you’re probably in a state of shock, in disbelief about what just happened. Maybe your husband just left you and he pulled child support on you and your kids, or perhaps you just lost a loved one, or you’re a 14 year old teenager who just got pregnant. Your life is in turmoil. You need time to recover, to process, or to grieve. Your mind is a whirlwind of thoughts thinking how you will ever survive? If you’re still in the situation (e.g. an ongoing abusive relationship or an unwanted pregnancy), you first need to accept where you are and start taking the steps you need to resolve the situation. This may be turning to family and friends, and knowing with conviction that your situation WILL get better, but you have to define what that looks like and be the master of your own destiny. You are still accountable for your own life and what you accept in it. If the situation is unacceptable, you need to find the reserves of strength within yourself to change it, otherwise nothing will change and even worse, you’ll likely find yourself on the path to self-destruction. There’s a better way. It’s not what happens to you but how you react to it. If the situation is passed, grant yourself the freedom to accept that which you cannot change. Cry it out. Journalize it out. Tell a friend or trusted professional. Let your emotions out. You may be angry, frightened, hateful, or all of the above. That’s natural. That’s human. We are emotional beings, so there’s nothing wrong with having those feelings. You need to have them to move through them. Just don’t act on them to your detriment (e.g. becoming abusive yourself, turning to drugs, alcohol, or even suicide). Instead, get help. There’s help out there, and lots of it…Find support, but don’t bottle things in. The healing process starts by letting things out and knowing it will take time to rebuild. Allow that time. When you can start to think straight again, when you’ve gathered yourself together after a terrible situation, then it’s time to….

STEP2: PUT THINGS IN PERSPECTIVE; Unless you were in the tsunami or Slave Lake, most of our problems are often miniscule by comparison. And that’s the first thing we must realize….when we face adversity in our own lives, place it in proper perspective and know that it could be a lot worse. And those who have it a lot worse will still recover. Changed they will be but recover they will…all of them, with the proper strength and resiliency (more on that later); and you will too for whatever adversity you are facing. They will rebuild their towns and they will rebuild their families and they will rebuild themselves from the inside out and the outside in. Consider Holocaust Survivor Viktor Frankl… Through all the trials and tribulations I’ve been through in my own life, and the horrific stories I’ve heard others endure, they can’t even begin to compare to the unbelievable suffering that Frankl and all Holocaust victims endured. To emphasize how fortunate I am, I intentionally seek out places where crimes against humanity have occurred….not because I have some dark fascination with these sites of extraordinary transgression, but in order to keep that ever-important perspective. To keep it real. To this end, I’ve been to the Killing Fields in Cambodia, I’ve stood where the pro-democracy crackdown was in Tiananmen Square, I’ve toured the origins of Nazi experimentation with humans in Dachau, and I’ve witnessed the gas chambers of Auschwitz in the very place where Frankl himself was interred. And yet, Viktor Frankl didn’t just survive, indeed he flourished after his experience. He recounts his tale in his seminal work Man’s Search for Meaning, where he describes in gruesome detail how his captors persecuted him and his colleagues through extreme physical and psychological abuse beyond what one would think is possible…. for years. More importantly, he tells you how he got through it. Perspective. Always know it could be worse, and start being thankful for what you DO have. Do you have a roof over your head and food on the table? Do you have friends and family that you can turn to? Do you have government assistance that can fund or support you? Do you have the intelligence to find help and inspiration, to look for hope? If you’ve read this far then I know you do! To overcome your ordeal there’s no place for a victim mentality. Look around and start seeing everything that is RIGHT instead of focusing on everything that is wrong. Even if it’s finding the beauty in a flower, or a poem, or a child… There is so much that is right in this world and there’s always more that can be wrong, so start placing your attitude on the right side of that spectrum. That choice is one only you can make. The proper perspective helps make the right choice.

STEP 3: REBUILD & STRENGTHEN RESILIENCY; Once you have picked yourself up, dusted yourself off, taken stock of your wounds, then its time to rebuild. But how? It’s just so damn hard! Yet some people seem to rise up beyond their circumstances and rebirth anew. Model them. Take my loving wife for example. She’s an incest survivor whose years of sexual and emotional trauma led her to deport her own father at the age of 16. SIXTEEN! She always knew she was being wronged, and she always knew there’d come a day when her pain would end and she could start to rebuild. She is an amazing woman and that’s why I married her. You can read her full story on her blog about finding herself.  She had hope. She had Resiliency. Resiliency is the key thing you need to overcome any adversity. My good friend Troy Payne taught me that and he teaches it around the continent to young abuse victims and adults alike. He recounts his life of family abuse and his near suicide and how he overcame it in his instant bestseller The Road to Resiliency .  I cried when I read it, yet it leaves you with the tools to overcome your adversity and it leaves you with hope. That’s what Viktor Frankl had. That’s what you can have too. When we find meaning in our ordeals it gives us the power to overcome them. To help in your rebuilding process, to develop the kind of resiliency you need to overcome your adversity, surround yourself with positive influences and those who rose up against their circumstances. Get Troy’s book. Read my wife’s blog. Subscribe to my blog at the right. Immerse yourself in Frankl’s lessons. There’s strength in knowing that others have overcome much worse than you. There’s a myriad of options for you, but start now. Start to rebuild, and stay strong. Get on The Road to Resiliency and know that you are not alone. Then, teach your lessons to others like Troy is doing so others can have the same support you are about to receive when you act on my words. You won’t just heal yourself. You will help to heal the world… Maybe that was the reason for your suffering in the first place.

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

 

 

Instantly Make Your Day More Productive

John Assaraf posed this question on Facebook the other day:

“When your vision is in place for your dream business or life goals, it’s important to keep the big picture you’re working toward in mind at all times and not let the hundreds of details distract you.  Do you have a successful task management system that works well for you – software, a note-taking strategy, or something else?  Please share!”

In this world of overwhelm and ever-increasing complexity, its critical that we keep our eye on the prize without getting bogged down in the details.  But how to do?  HOW TO DO?  John’s question was so important that it inspired me to write this post and share with everyone.

Just so happens, as a facilitator of Success, I know such a strategy.  I call it the Instant Productivity Maker and it’s incredibly simple.  The system I’m about to share is so deceptively simple that it’s easy to discount and NOT do anything.  And yet, this is the same technique handed down to me personally by my friend and mentor Bob Proctor, the very same one handed down to him by Earl Nightingale, who had it handed down to him by the legendary Napoleon Hill…the Father of Personal Development.  And from where did good ol’ Napoleon get it, pray tell?  From none other than Andrew Carnegie…the second wealthiest man who ever lived….EVER! (Pop Quiz: who was the first? Enter in the comments).  It’s told that wee Andra Carnegie got it from a business associate named Ivy Lee who was so convinced of its worth that he didn’t want anything for it up front.  Instead, he said if Carnegie implements the strategy and it produces dividends, to pay him what Carnegie thought it was worth.  As a man of action, Carnegie did implement it and he found it so valuable, he did pay his colleague for his insights.  The sum?  A cool $25,000 at the turn of the last century, circa 1901.  That’s over $16 MILLION dollars in today’s currency, and now it’s my turn to offer it here to you.  In return, I only ask that you make an earnest effort to actually DO this and pay it forward.  That’s it.  A 16 Million dollar strategy for nothing except your promise and your sharing.  What do you have to lose by trying except the very thing you define as Success? If you’re serious about it, then state in the comments on what date you will start this strategy, then share this blog post.  OK…..ready?  Here it is:

Before you go to sleep each night, write down the top six things you need to do tomorrow in priority order.  Do #1 in it’s ENTIRETY before moving on to #2.  Do #2 in it’s entirety before moving on to #3.  Repeat until the list is done.”

What?  That’s it?  You’re joking right?  Ummmmm….no.  Absolutely not.  As crazy simple as this sounds, there are several key elements woven into this timeless piece of tactical wisdom:

1. Timing – The timing of when you do this is critical.  For maximum effect, this needs to be done right before you go to sleep.  Why?  Well, for several reasons:

a) It let’s you clear your mind of the days’ toils.  Any troubles, fears, frustrations instantly dissolve when you focus on your highest goals and the tasks to achieve them, especially if they  are in alignment with your core values.  Worry falls away when you think about that which excites you! Stress diminishes. If you’re striving for a huge goal in attainment of your ultimate vision, the mental images in your mind allow no room for troubling thoughts, only ways to achieve the goal.

b) If you’re free from stress and worry, you sleep better!  Plain and simple.

c) Tasks and associated goals seep into your sub-conscious while you sleep.  You may not know how to reach a goal, but you don’t have to!  You only need to know the what.  Studies have shown that we only use about 10% of our brain.  Let the other 90% go to work while you sleep.  It’s often in the alpha state, or moments when we’re in deep relaxation, or when we’re NOT thinking about a problem when those AHA moments come.  Have more of them through this method.

2. Writing - There’s a reason why writing down your goals and tasks work:

a) It forces clarity. When you leave it to your memory, too many things intrude and the message gets distorted or lost altogether.

b) Writing means pen and paper.  It does NOT mean capturing the thought digitally through a keyboard, touch screen or voice memo.  Sure you can gain the clarity by typing or recording it, but consider this – If you believe that thoughts are things and they can manifest into reality (someone had to think up the chia pet before it came into being right?), the act of physically writing actually speeds up this process by helping your thought become an actual thing in the real world.  When you write your thoughts on paper, you instantly bring the intangible (your thought) into the tangible (the paper). What’s a blueprint after all but a paper representation of an architect’s thought that turns into a skyscraper!

c) Further, the brain is hard-wired to remember and act upon the written word rather than the digital one.  We’ve been writing for thousands of years but the practical computing tools to digitize our thoughts are in their mere infancy.  We’ve evolved to think the way we write and write the way we think.

d) If you are true to this method and its timing, it means your note pad is right beside you on the nightstand, so you can capture those AHA moments when they do come.

3.  A REASON to get up! – In the morning, you hit the ground running because you’ve already thought out the most meaningful actions to do that day and you can start immediately.

a) So much time is wasted by starting your day inefficiently…that is, not knowing where to start.  By the time you figure it out, you’ve hit the snooze button twice, needed 3 cups of coffee to get you going, you’ve wasted a couple of hours on Facebook or email hell answering to someone else’s agenda because you didn’t have a clear direction to your day, and before you know its lunchtime.  Half the day gone.  Sound familiar?  Hmmmmm…..then you wonder why you get frustrated about getting nothing done (see 1a – this tool allows the day’s toils to become less because you accomplished more).  Start your day with YOUR agenda instead!

b) Because you’re excited about your tasks moving closer to your value-centred goals as you use this consistently, you’re also energized. You’ll get a natural high just from the momentum, daily progress, and sense of accomplishment you feel.  You won’t need those 3 cups of coffee in the first place.  This takes you to a more natural state of being instead of a caffeine –induced one (or worse stimulants).  Most people are stuck in mediocrity simply because they fail to plan.  How does that saying go?  “If you fail to plan you plan to fail.”  Instead, plan your work and work your plan!

4. Instant Productivity – this is the reason you’re reading this in the first place…how to become more productive.  Think about it.  If you stick to the plan and put your highest, most important (not urgent) activity at the top of the list and accomplish nothing else for the rest of the day, you’ll have done the highest-priority item at the day’s start and you can be happy by the end of the day even if the other things are still there.  No biggie…just carry them forward to the next day.  Life happens, but when it does, most people react to the urgent, not the important.  The most important thing to do is often the hardest, or the scariest, and that’s why people leave it til last, thinking it will go away.  It won’t, so why not get it out of the way in the first place!  This is the biggest stumbling block for most people.  Don’t be most people.  Put first things first and the rest of the day will seem easy by comparison and be a huge confidence booster.

This technique is so important it bears repeating:

Before you go to sleep each night, write down the top six things you need to do tomorrow in priority order.  Do #1 in it’s ENTIRETY before moving on to #2.  Do #2 in it’s entirety before moving on to #3.  Repeat until the list is done.”

Simple. Succinct. Successful → That’s what you’ll be when you do this. Don’t let this time-tested wisdom pass you by. You CAN change the World with it. If you’re serious, then I urge you to act: publicly declare your intent to implement this strategy in the comments and by when, then share this post.  Easily implement this with the 30-Day Habit Formula. Put it out there, act NOW, and let’s Dance!

Live Life LARGE
Dave

How to become an Amazon Bestseller

That’s just what happened to my good friend Charmaine Hammond this week….that’s right….BESTSELLER status on Amazon!  Not only did she hit #1 in her category on Amazon.com (plus #1 in 3 different categories in Canada alone), but #343 overall out of over 31 MILLION books!  Now most Success “gurus” out there say you should strive to be in the top 20%, or the elite of the elite are in the top 3-5%, but do the math here….Charmaine was better than 343/31,000,000.   That’s 1 in 90,379 or 0.001% !  Not the top 1%….  Not the top one quarter of a percent…not even the top ONE HUNDRETH of one percent.  No, Charmaine Hammond was in the top one thousandth of one percent! Seriously?  That’s such an incredible number that my simple mind can’t even fathom it. Let’s put it into perspective…

That accomplishment is better than the odds of getting a hole in one in golf (about 1 in 5,000)1.  Ever gotten one of those before?  It’s better than finding a four-leaf clover on the first try (1 in 10,000).  Charmaine’s feat was better than the chances of becoming a pro athlete (1 in 22,000) and it even trumps the odds of accidental drowning (1 in 79,065) or dying from smoke or fire (1 in 81,524).  Fantastically, the chances that Earth will experience a catastrophic collision with an asteroid in the next 100 years is only 1 in 5,000, so yup, it beats that too.

I’m so proud of her, and I’m proud that I could help her get there.  How did she do it?  Well, it goes back to when we first met.  You see, Charmaine and I are founding members of the Evolutionary Business Council, or the EBC.  The EBC was the brainchild of my dear friend Teresa de Grosbois, and when Teresa invited us to this organization of influential thought leaders dedicated to changing the world for the better through our teachings, we couldn’t resist.  People helping people improve the world?  Hmmmm….sounds like a winner to me.  At the inaugural retreat of the Council, 40 of us convened amidst the pristine Canadian Rockies in the mountain resort town of Canmore, Alberta.  We each had  a chance to ask something powerful before the Council.  Chances like this don’t come around often, nor should you treat them frivolously.  For us, it was akin to having the opportunity to ask something before the United Nations and them supporting you in whatever you asked.  This was our mini U.N.  I happened to be sitting beside Charmaine, and “The Ask” was so important that we actually took the time to craft it properly, to hone it, examine it, explore it from all sides to ensure it was the most succinct, most powerfully crafted question possible.  As a Speaker, Results Trainer, and Breakthrough Expert myself, I assisted and coached Charmaine in this process.  Distilled down to its very essence, the question basically asked the Council if they would support Charmaine’s upcoming book launch in various ways. The Results? After only 8 minutes of delivery and discussion, 100% of those gathered agreed to support the campaign even though 80% of them had never met Charmaine before and virtually none of them had even read the book!

This was months before the launch, but when this past week came around, everyone honored their commitment, stepped up to the plate, and sent out launch announcements to their email lists, they tweeted, they Facebooked, they newslettered, they shared and spread the message with a singular enthusiasm.  It gathered a hype and contagion that took a life unto itself…and in keeping with Teresa’s vision of the Council, it spread like wildfire. And the book?  It’s called On Toby’s Terms.
It’s the amazing story about Charmaine’s dog Toby and the incredible obstacles she and her husband Chris had to overcome because of Toby’s destructive behavior.  In the process, both they and Toby had to re-invent themselves. It’s a heartwarming tale (tail? :) ) of love, growth, and support and you can check it out yourself on Amazon

Support is the critical factor in both the book and in Charmaine’s success.  In chatting with her about the launch afterwards, she told me how learning to ASK properly and the support of the EBC was paramount to hitting #1 on Amazon.  She told me how the Council really championed her cause and she was overwhelmed with the expressions of support she received.  Success came from building those relationships early on, developing their trust, and surrounding herself with carefully chosen, influential leaders who believe in you.  People want to be part of something BIG.  It’s exciting.  It’s bold.  On Toby’s Termsis like that, and Hollywood has even taken notice and they’re making a major motion picture out of it now.  Expect it in theatres later this year.  Meanwhile, get the book on Amazon. Charmaine is even donating some of the proceeds to charity, so be part of something big.

Do you have something Big and Bold you’re working on?  Do you have a book in you?  A major goal you’re striving for?  A dream?  If so, let’s hear it in the comments and what you’re doing to move it forward. Start NOW to build those relationships and plant the seeds of support you’ll need to get it off the ground.  Build your own council of support.  It’s simpler than you think, and who knows….maybe we’ll see YOU as the next Best Seller!

 

Live Life LARGE

Dave

1All comparison statistics from http://www.funny2.com/odds.htm

Baring My Soul for the Land of the Rising Sun

It’s been several days since the incredible events in Japan that are so shocking, it’s stuff that even Hollywood can’t concoct:

  • The most powerful earthquake ever to hit that country and the fifth largest in the recorded history of the world
  • A deadly Tsunami that wiped away everything, absolutely EVERYTHING in it’s path
  • A jolt strong enough to wake a slumbering volcano hundreds of miles away (the other events are so shocking that even this has been forgotten by World News)
  • Topped off by a nuclear disaster that is worsening by the day, even as I type

So….where do I start?  Do I start with the tears of sorrow that still fill my heart?  Do I start with the fact that Japan is my adopted second home that I know better than my own country?  Do I start perhaps, with knowing that every single town that now fills world headlines I’ve been to…I’ve walked those streets, I’ve ate at those restaurants, I’ve slept in those houses that are now washed away….entire towns wiped from the face of the planet.  Yes… every single place you’ve now seen on YouTube lying in ruin, in utter devastation I’ve been to.  It’s taken this long for me just to grasp the scale of it and share my thoughts.  But no, I won’t start there.  Let me start at the beginning…

It was 1991 when I first received “The Letter”… that prophetic piece of paper that was the harbinger of my life as I know it.   You know, that singular moment in time that defines the rest of your life.  It was the Letter that said “Yes”, you are going to Japan.  It was the Letter that “Yes,” this is where you will climb your first mountain.  It was the Letter that said “Yes” you will come to know and love these people so much that they will come to know and love you, that they will come across the world to Honour you at your wedding when that day comes. It was THAT kind of Letter.  And it was my formal acceptance into a world so foreign to us Westerners that you either love it or hate it.  I experienced the former.  The Letter was from the Consul General of Japan, inviting me to partake in a government-sponsored program to teach English to Junior High School kids in very agrarian, very rural Nippon.  I mean, I literally had a rice paddy for my back yard!

So here I found myself planting rice, harvesting rice, eating squid guts and all kinds of other unmentionables from ’92-’94.  It was the experience of a lifetime for an adventurous soul like myself, and I soaked up every minute of it…studying with black belt Karate masters, going to Shinto Shrines, and explaining to all my friends and family back home that I was 6 hours north of Tokyo because no one had ever heard of a place called “Sendai” back then.  Sendai was my nearest reference point as a major city nearby, and I was still an hour and a half north of that by train.  I was stationed in the southern tip of Iwate Prefecture, next to the border of Miyagi…the two places that were hardest hit by the earthquake and resultant tsunami. I know them….no…I “knew” them intimately.  I use the past tense here because the places I once wandered so freely no longer exist anymore.  The morning of March 11, 2011 changed all that.  America has it’s “9-11.”  Japan now has it’s “3-11.”

The days after the quake and the tsunami were terrifying for me.  I had just spoken to my dearest of Japanese friends shortly before the quake hit, and now I knew not whether they were alive or dead.  These were the same folks that took me into their homes and broke bread with me (ok we drank sake ;) ) and who travelled thousands of miles to bring not just my newlywed wife and I ceremonial wedding sake and gifts… but sake and individual gifts for ALL the wedding attendees, topped off by a ceremonial wedding dance just for us complete with all their kimonos and regalia .  Alive or dead….Alive or dead….

It took one full week to find out the answer.  I was calling Japan almost every day, but to no avail.  The “Quanami” (my word for a combined Quake and Tsunami) was so thorough that it wiped out power and communication lines to MILLIONS of Japanese for hundreds of miles.  Exactly one week to the day I finally got through, and only by the virtue that my dearest of dear friends (second family really) live in the interior away from the coast, but still in the regions hardest hit.  But….they finally answered the phone.  Both households that I hold close to my heart were safe.  The relief that coursed through my veins is beyond the written word to describe.  We talked and we talked and we talked.  For hours we talked, and I learned from them the first-hand experience of the shaker and its devastation. I learned how even the very day I spoke to them they had 3 aftershocks that were 6.0 plus on the Richter scale…a now commonplace occurrence since the Big One.  I was so overjoyed to hear their voices that it subdued the morbid knowing that countless of my more distant acquaintances walked the earth no more.

In remembering another famous “Eleven,” we recall the names, the places on November 11 and call them Vimy, Passchendaele, Flanders….we call them Dieppe, Normandy, and even Pearl Harbour.  Wow….talk about a Day of Infamy.  In this, Japan’s most desperate need, my memory and my heart calls out to the streets I once walked and to the people that once lived there….and on 3-11 and forever forward I sing the praises of Miyagi, Sendai, Kessenuma…of Iwate, Rikuzen Takata, Miyako.  Ahhh Miyako.  May the Land of the Rising Sun live up to her name and rebuild herself, through that indomitable Japanese Spirit and that of ours in the Global Community, may She rise up and make Herself whole again.

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Where were you one year ago today?

Do you even remember?  Well, if you’re a fan of the Olympics you certainly knew where you were, and even more so if you are a Canadian.  It was on this day exactly one year ago when history was made.  In a classic matchup between long-standing hockey rivals Canada and the U.S., their respective men’s teams were playing the game of their lives.  If you’re any kind of sports fan or one of heroic triumph, you had to love this story.  Down one goal in the Gold Medal Championship game, with 24 seconds left on the clock, the U.S. scores to tie it up and send the match into Overtime, stealing certain Gold from Team Canada.  Then, 7 minutes 40 seconds into OT, Canada’s poster boy of Hockey Sidney Crosby lets one rip and scores!  Pandemonium erupts not just in Vancouver 2010, but across the entire country and around the world wherever Canadians were.  Even U.S. coach Ron Wilson praised the goal and it’s impact: “A great player made a great play.”

Having already won the Stanley Cup, and now Olympic Gold, the goal immortalized Crosby as a Hockey Legend as much as Paul Henderson was immortalized by scoring the winning goal against the Soviets in the famed ’72 Summit Series.  But this time it capped an incredible medal run and set Canada atop the Olympic Podium with a record 14 Gold medals….a Golden Goal indeed.  Truly an Breakthrough for Crosby, a defining moment for Canada, and a tribute to the Olympic games.  So where were you one year today during all the hoopla?  Me…like countless other Canadians, I was screaming like a banshee, jumping up and down in the comfort of my living room with my family, soaking up every moment.  I even broke the heat vent when I landed on it I was jumping so hard, and there was no place I’d rather be.  It was more than a Hockey Game….it was one of those once-in-a-lifetime moments you’ll never forget, that forges an instant bond when you bring it up and ask someone else “Where were you during that Golden moment?”  And what did it mean to you?  For Sidney Crosby, Team Canada, and a Proud Nation, it was a glorious Breakthrough.  What was it for you?  Would love to hear your comments.

No Flowers, No Chocolate, No Card, No Nuthin’! BAH CUPID

That’s right.  That’s exactly what my wife got this Valentine’s Day…No Flowers, No Chocolate, No Card….Nuthin’!  Well, nothing store-bought anyway.  You see I love my wife.  I absolutely adore her. And I refuse to insult her presence by celebrating with a manufactured commercial “holiday” that guilts you into buying shit that only serves to bolster the pocket books of the merchants that sell you the shit.  Teresa calls it the “The Commercialization of Guilt” and she’s right.  When you realize this Breakthrough, you realize that Valentine’s Day is nothing more than a capitalistic guilt-trip playing on our emotions, but hey, isn’t all great marketing?  In this case it guilts all of us into thinking we have to buy our loved ones a special “something” on a specific special day of the year when in fact it shouldn’t rely on a certain day.  My wife and I share a special bond where we appreciate each other every day of the year and we know it.  She doesn’t need flowers and I don’t need a new watch or wallet.  Sound harsh?  Not really, when you consider that I come home randomly throughout the year with flowers to brighten her day, or send her to the spa with the gals, or just cuddle by fireside with her over a glass of great wine and even better conversation.  She does the same for me, by making me an incredible meal because she knows I love it, or getting me a great book she happened upon and thought of me, or happily sending me on “Dave Time” to climb my next mountain.  These random acts of Love sprinkled throughout the year are anchored by our weekly date night, that we have come to rely on as “us” time… an inextricable part of our lives and a known constant on which we can rely. No, we don’t need someone else’s written word on a meaningless card to tell each other “I love you.” We say it often enough to each other.

The Commercialization of Valentine’s day is even more extreme in Japan.  It is so manufactured as an economic stimulus that on Feb 14, tradition (bastardized from the West) says that only women should give men gifts! (mainly chocolate) Sounds pretty good from a Western guy’s perspective right?  Ah but there’s a couple of catches….if you’re male and receive Valentine’s Day chocolate, don’t get too excited… it’s probably out of the strong sense of obligation to bosses or male colleagues, thus it’s called ”Giri-choko” or  ”obligation chocolate!”  The even bigger catch is that men have to return the favour exactly one month later on Mar 14 or “White Day,” which is the most blatantly-created commercial “holiday” I’ve ever seen.  Think of it.  In the West it’s most common for guys to give to girls right?  The Japanese have done a 180° on this and let the girls give to the guys instead, and have the guys give to the girls one month later when sales would normally be slow.  Why miss out on half the market?  Further, it’s common practice that the return gift should be 2 to 3 times more expensive than the original value received!  It’s brilliant economically, and White Day was originally conceived by the National Confectionery Industry Association whereby white chocolate was the preferred answer to women for the dark chocolate men received from the same women on Valentine’s Day.  Go figure.

No, my wife didn’t get any chocolate.  In fact, when I got home from my day she “kissed and ditched” me in her terms (lovingly so of course) as she went to spend the evening at the rock climbing gym while I stayed home alone after I put the boys to bed.  It’s the way we’ve designed our lifestyle, and it’s the best gift I could have given her.

p.s. Check out my wife’s take on Valentine’s Day on her blog here .